And I’m not talking about playing Quidditch either (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, just ask a Harry Potter fan.) I’m talking about someone who is always on the lookout for books, workshops, quotes, friends, teachers, etc. who will help them get a little closer to their personal and professional goals. I’ve been a seeker most of my life, although I didn’t really know what to call it until a few years ago. I just thought that I was a life-long-learner, but once I got involved with life coaching I realized that what I mostly wanted to learn about was how to navigate the challenges I was facing a bit better. I wanted to learn how to get along better with my mother-in-law and how to deal with the stress of raising a child with special needs without feeling like I needed to crawl under the covers for a couple of hours.
Once I started reading more personal development books and training as a coach, I realized that there was no “arrival” in sight. I was never going to learn enough to have it all figured out and that I was on this journey for the long haul. Although I might never be done, that is actually fine with me. I’ve realized that people who think they have the Universe all figured out kind of scare me, because there is just too much beauty and magic out there to be reduced to a set of manageable rules and parameters. Sure, it’s been helpful to have some insights and distinctions to help me feel like I am living my life, rather than being run over by it, but the more answers I get, the more questions I have as well. Living has gotten much easier and I do have tools now for handling challenges, but that doesn’t mean that I have all the answers.
I also realized how important it is to me to have a community of other seekers to talk to. Not everyone looks at life this way, which is perfectly fine, but it’s been the best thing in the world to finally find my “tribe” and have the chance to talk about what I’m currently reading, pondering, or mulling over. Another thing that I do to keep my seeking active is to work with a coach of my own. My coach, Mary, trained with me, and so it’s not that she knows more than I do or that she is teaching me new things. Mary does what a coach is really best for; holding the space for me while I take time out of the whirlwind that is my life to come up for air and see where I am. She asks me questions about what I’m saying which help me to hear and see myself. This allows me to have new insights and make new plans about what I’m going to do next with the benefit of having an objective partner in the process. She doesn’t want me to do anything in particular, she just wants to help me get to wherever it is I’m headed. Although life may be a journey, I don’t want to be stuck in the same place the entire time, and so working with a coach helps me to sort through what I’m learning and actually apply it to my life so that I can move on to the next thing.
This is the place where many seekers I know fall short. They don’t have a structure for putting their insights into practical use. They know a lot about how to have a happy, fulfilling and functional life, but they don’t know how to have it for themselves. Working with a coach certainly isn’t the only structure for doing this, but I do think it’s one of the best. I’d love to hear what you other seekers out there are doing to keep your momentum going forward. If you don’t already have a method or structure for putting your personal growth learning to use, what might you take on in the near future to help you get more out of it?
Even if you never catch that Golden Snitch, I hope that you have a great time pursuing it!
Laura Luykx, CLC
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